Always control your space
Posted February 19, 2018 by anneeka01 in Rants
i will not read a few pages on the internet, have a look through a book and then declare myself an experience domme with many years experience and several "trained submissive" under my belt. i have taken the time and trouble to attend workshops and seminars and have perhaps had some lessons from or sought advice from other dominants more experienced thank myself. i care about the people around me, and though i can be authoritative and controlling and powerful, i have the utmost respect for others and a high level of care and consideration. i take responsibility for the submissive in my life, i control and dominate them, but i am empathetic to them and sympathetic to their needs, understanding hat for any submission to give their best, they must be secure and confident in their submission.
i don't have to demand respect, i get that anyway. i don't have to announce to the world who i am, because my reputation and respect of my peers precede me. i do not say "my way or the highway" but more "My way, but we can discuss it and i will explain it so that you can understand what i am asking of you" and i don't have to blow my own trumpet
I am waiting...

Waiting for your presence at my feet. Can you withstand my attention? I will lead

you to a place where your flesh, breath, and yielded being become seamlessly

merged with the discipline I administer. I will look deep into you and elicit

those dark things you are hiding there. I will have you beg for mercy - or more.

You will find in my presence a safe place to surrender to that which you have

feared. You will learn how to properly adore the Goddess as she sensually trains

and nurtures your willing submission through the tools I wield. This is spiritual

play - I'll weave your darkness into ecstasy.

Don't keep me waiting.

When you gaze up at me, your eyes will follow my long, shapely legs, to my

pleasing figure (5'11" in my heels, 145 lbs of sensuality). Long auburn hair and

blue eyes can fool you into thinking I'm nice.

Don't be fooled. I want you at my feet begging.

This is a list of games I like to play, combined with my training in sensual

Tantra will have you in agony - and ecstasy:

Restriction Play
Forced Feminization/Cross Dressing
CBT and NT
Medical Play
Foot/Boot/Shoe worship
Limited Body Worship
Violet Wand
Impact Play
Role Play

What I do not do:
Sex (so don't even ask)
Dirty diapers

I am available 6 days a week, afternoons and evenings for two hour minimum

sessions in My Lair. I prefer an email BEFORE a phone call, as I have a

questionnaire I require My gentlemen to fill out before a session. Be sure to give

at least 48 hours for this process. If you request outcall, you incur all travel

expenses and My time. To Sonoma, Mendocino or Napa Co. $50, Vallejo or Marin Co.

$75 and to San Francisco and East Bay $100.

I will take your training deeper. Now, breathe with Me...
Nine Levels of Submission

It was written by Diane Vera and published in the Lesbian S/M Safety Manual, from Alyson Press, Copyright 1984 and 1988. It is interesting to read and see where you feel you are or want to be. It is also fun to use in arguments about "true" slaves etc.

Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist's own terms and for the masochist's own direct pleasure (i.e. turned on solely/mainly by one's own bodily sensations rather than by being "used" to gratify one's partner's sadism).

Not into even playing "slave," but into other "submissive" role-playing, e.g. schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, "forced" transvestitism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree.

Likes to play at being a slave; likes to feel subservient; may in some cases like to feel one is being "used" to gratify partner's sadism; may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the "slave's" own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers).

Really gives up control (only temporarily and within agreed-upon limits), but gets her/his main satisfaction from aspects of submission other than serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up reasonability. Does not dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seek mainly her/his own direct/pleasure (rather than getting one's pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).

Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief "scenes" and within limits) and gets main satisfaction from serving/being used by dominant-but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. May/may not be into pain. If so, is turned on by pain indirectly, i.e. enjoys being the object of one's partner's sadism, on which the submissive places very few requirements or restrictions.

Really gives up control (usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non erotic as well as fun/erotic services; but only when the "slave" is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have long-term relationship with one's Mistress, but, either way, the "slave" has the final say over when she will serve.

Has an ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the dominant's property at all times. Wants to obey and please Dom(me) in all aspects of life-practical/non erotic and fun/erotic. Devotes most of time to other commitments (e.g. job) but Dom(me) has first pick of the slave's free time.

Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/himself as existing solely for the Dom(me)'s pleasure/well being. Slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave's position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male. Within the S/M world, a full time "slave" arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude carefully, with more awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.

A common fantasy ideal that probably does not exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the "consent" is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn't fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you are not really a slave unless you are willing to do absolutely anything for your Dom(me), with no limits at all. I have met a few people who claimed to be no-limit slaves, but in all cases, I have reason to doubt the claim.
Copyright 1984 and 1988, Diane Vera
Tammi Moore
A Lady At Last
Posted November 29, 2010 by Tammi Moore
My exwife, a powerful woman, made sure I was crushed and broekn as a male and learned to accept and embrace life as a woman. I was sad then and am so fulfilled now. Why put on a scratchy pair of mens underwear - I slip into shiny tight glossy pantyhose daily instead! mmmmmmmmmm