Reading My profile towards the end of 2011, I have achieved many of My dreams.
A petite, pretty naturally Dominant Lady who offers discreet sensual sadistic domination and bondage in Her own private fully equipped Dungeon in Primrose Hill, London, UK.
A Lady who expects politeness and manners.
She has 16 years of real life experience in BDSM.
Who I'd Like to Meet
NOT YET MET: Ideally a male slave who enjoys chastity, denial of any touching Mistress Adara. Is a masochist suffering nipple, cock and ball torture and corporal punishment to please his Owner. Absolutely no cross dressers unless they can pass as genetic females.
I HAVE HAD 7 APPLICANTS - 2 ARE ACTUALLY MAKING PROTOTYPES: Here is the absolute gift that any applicant could offer - practical skills in small scale woodwork/carpentry. I have many wicked ideas which need constructing.
NOT YET MET A female masochist and bondage enthusiast - sexually submissive to Mistress Adara.
I HAVE BEEN TUTORED IN THIS: Both need to be willing to instruct Mistress upon Electrical Sensation and Torture.
So wishing everyone else such success in their lives. Seasons Greetings x
Nothing stands still in My world unless I decide and lock it down.
I am adding to My medieval bondage collection with a modern 'Scavengers Daughter' - think of a T between the ankles and attached to the neck and adjustable handcuffs at chest level.
I am speaking with a carpenter who may create some of My ideas.
I just require a manor house and cellars suitable for an authentic medieval dungeon now!
In the 21st Century I have learnt Germanic methods of penile electrics.
Nine Levels of Submission
It was written by Diane Vera and published in the Lesbian S/M Safety Manual, from Alyson Press, Copyright 1984 and 1988. It is interesting to read and see where you feel you are or want to be. It is also fun to use in arguments about "true" slaves etc.
1. THE OUTRIGHT NON-SUBMISSIVE MASOCHIST or KINKY SENSUALIST.
Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist's own terms and for the masochist's own direct pleasure (i.e. turned on solely/mainly by one's own bodily sensations rather than by being "used" to gratify one's partner's sadism).
2. PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE.
Not into even playing "slave," but into other "submissive" role-playing, e.g. schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, "forced" transvestitism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree.
3. PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE.
Likes to play at being a slave; likes to feel subservient; may in some cases like to feel one is being "used" to gratify partner's sadism; may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the "slave's" own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers).
4. TRUE SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE.
Really gives up control (only temporarily and within agreed-upon limits), but gets her/his main satisfaction from aspects of submission other than serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up reasonability. Does not dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seek mainly her/his own direct/pleasure (rather than getting one's pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).
5. TRUE SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE.
Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief "scenes" and within limits) and gets main satisfaction from serving/being used by dominant-but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. May/may not be into pain. If so, is turned on by pain indirectly, i.e. enjoys being the object of one's partner's sadism, on which the submissive places very few requirements or restrictions.
6. UNCOMMITTED SHORT-TERM BUT MORE THAN PLAY SEMI-SLAVE.
Really gives up control (usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non erotic as well as fun/erotic services; but only when the "slave" is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have long-term relationship with one's Mistress, but, either way, the "slave" has the final say over when she will serve.
7. PART-TIME CONSENSUAL-BUT REAL SLAVE.
Has an ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the dominant's property at all times. Wants to obey and please Dom(me) in all aspects of life-practical/non erotic and fun/erotic. Devotes most of time to other commitments (e.g. job) but Dom(me) has first pick of the slave's free time.
8. FULL-TIME LIVE IN CONSENSUAL SLAVE.
Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/himself as existing solely for the Dom(me)'s pleasure/well being. Slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave's position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male. Within the S/M world, a full time "slave" arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude carefully, with more awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.
9. CONSENSUAL TOTAL SLAVE WITH NO LIMITS.
A common fantasy ideal that probably does not exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the "consent" is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn't fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you are not really a slave unless you are willing to do absolutely anything for your Dom(me), with no limits at all. I have met a few people who claimed to be no-limit slaves, but in all cases, I have reason to doubt the claim.
Copyright 1984 and 1988, Diane Vera
I live in an area of London, United Kingdom, known as Primrose Hill. It is an area of affluence, substantial period housing and luxury cars, Porches, Aston Martins, Maserati. My neighbours are members of the Aristocracy, Government Ministers and show business Celebrities.
It is a life of luxury that I deserve.
I live with a beautiful t-girl maidservant. I have visiting slave servants consisting of a male houseserf and a male gardener.
I was introduced to bdsm through the usual route of a lover requesting bondage and to be spanked. I then researched bdsm and applied to a Dominant household run by a Mistress upon Victorian hierachy and discipline. I stayed there for 18 months learning the activities, techniques and roles. Since then I have been actively involved in Lifestyle bdsm - 16 years.